Welcome to Gail Adeniyi Counselling
"Passionate about helping others to help themselves"
I am an integrative therapist providing short and long term therapy to adults.
About Me
For as long as I can remember, I have always been passionate about helping others and usually the “go to” person amongst family and friends when they needed a listening ear!
I decided to train to become a counsellor as I wanted to make a positive difference to people's lives. I wanted to be able to help others to identify the causes and patterns that may be contributing to their difficulties in life and to help them to better understand themselves; make sense of it all; accept themselves and empower them to be the best version of themselves that they can be. I now run my own private practice based in Stockport.
I have worked for BUPA'S Employee Assistance helpline offering emotional and practical support to callers.
I also have experience of offering counselling services in GP surgeries and I have also worked with my local Council and other local agencies in offering counselling to women who have gone through or going through domestic abuse.
I am a member of the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy (“BACP”), I adhere to their code of ethics and values and I have an ongoing commitment to continuing professional development so that my skills are always up to date. I also have Clinical Supervision monthly. Clinical Supervision is a formal and collaborative process that keeps me accountable and ensures that I am working ethically with you.
Therapists are known as "wounded healers" and that's because we have all experienced our own heartbreak, major life setbacks, disappointment and trauma but we survived and thrived and now want to help others to do the same.
How counselling can help
Many of us have events from our past which have left us wounded – rejection, death of a loved one, family member or parent, childhood neglect, bullying, relationship breakdown or abuse. When these events occur, our view of the world shifts and we can feel that it is no longer safe and so we adjust our coping style in order to avoid these traumatic events from happening or affecting us again.
What we may not realise is that the coping mechanisms we put in place back then may now be hindering us as adults, but we may not even recognize that that is the case or how to change them. Counselling can help you to explore these in a safe, caring and confidential space.
Sometimes we can feel like we’ve reached a crossroads in life, we can feel lost or stuck and unsure which direction to take. I can help you to look at what goals you would like to achieve for the future and help you to get there through my coaching services.
Issues I deal with the most:
I have experience of working with a wide range of clients aged 18+ with an extensive range of issues, however the below issues are those I deal with the most:
- Abuse
- Anger Management
- Anxiety/Overthinking
- Bereavement, Loss & Grief
- Career coaching
- Communication
- Cultural issues
- Depression
- Domestic Abuse
- Family Issues
- Health related issues
- Lacking in confidence
- Loneliness
- Life coaching
- Personal development
- Pleasing others
- Putting others first
- Post-Traumatic stress
- Relationships
- Self Esteem
- Stress / Burnout
- Trauma
- Workplace issues
Or maybe you can't pinpoint what is troubling you - you just know you want things to be different.
Journeying Together
Counselling is a professional relationship which focuses entirely on you. It’s a journey of self-discovery and empowerment.
As your therapist, my role is not to fix you or advise you, but rather to listen with empathy and compassion and provide fresh perspectives on the difficulties you are facing. Together, we will work on strategies that will enable you to effectively manage your emotions and achieve your goals.
As an integrative counsellor, I use a number of different approaches from various schools of counselling and human psychology according to your individual needs. My aim is to empower you to live a more enjoyable life – whatever that looks like for you.
Life can be so challenging sometimes and whether you are facing specific difficult situations in your life, feeling overwhelmed with life, having relationship difficulties, feeling anxious depressed, low self esteem or lacking in confidence and feel like no-one cares or understands, I am able to offer you a safe and confidential space where you can explore what is going on for you through the counselling services I offer.
My Location
I offer online sessions via Zoom and have availability for evening and weekend sessions.
I also have some availability for face to face sessions and these can take place at:
Sinclair House, 11 Station Road, Cheadle Hulme, SK8 5AF which is easily accessible from Stockport, Hazel Grove, Bramhall, Alderley Edge, and Glossop.
Fees & Availability
I offer a free 20 minute initial telephone consultation. This an opportunity for us to connect and for you to briefly inform me of what’s brought you to therapy. We can discuss your hopes and expectations and discuss how I can provide the support you are seeking.
Frequency of sessions: Sessions will usually be on a weekly basis and where possible, at the same time and same day of the week. Experience shows that a consistency of time and place positively aids the therapeutic process. However, we can discuss frequency if you feel unable to commit to weekly sessions.
Length of sessions: Our sessions will be 1 hour and together we will review the process periodically as this will help to assess whether your needs are being met and decide on a new direction or to establish new goals.
Cost: Each session costs £50 per hour and payments can be made by cash or bank transfer. Details will be given to you at your first session.
I provide a limited number of spaces for those on low income or for counselling students.
"Gail has been an enormous help to our patients and the practice has received some very good feedback from patients"
Awburn House Surgery
FAQs
Research shows that the therapeutic relationship between you and your therapist is likely to have a big impact on your growth so it’s important
to choose a therapist you feel comfortable with. You can search the online directories and choose, say, 3 therapists you think can help you. Have an initial consultation with all of them so you can ask questions and see who you feel the most comfortable with before booking in your first session.
- You should feel safe and comfortable opening up to them and feel supported to say anything without fear of judgement;
- You should feel like you can be yourself and be honest;
- You should feel like you are being listened to and the therapist is interested in what you are saying. They are not only taking in your words but also understanding them;
- Your therapist wants the best for you. You should never feel like your therapist is forcing you to do something you don’t want to do;
- Your therapist will regularly check in with you and encourage you to speak up if you feel therapy with them is not working;
- Whilst your therapist might be an expert in certain areas of human psychology, that doesn’t mean they know everything and your therapist should openly admit when they don’t know something and do their best to learn more. A committed therapist is continuously increasing their knowledge.
- Your therapist should validate your thoughts, emotions, actions and experiences. This doesn’t mean they agree with everything you say or do but a therapist who makes you feel validated, acknowledges what you tell them as the truth of your experience;
- Your therapist should never use your sessions to address their own concerns;
- Your therapist isn’t your best friend but a good therapist acts as an ally. They’ll work to forge a bond with you that’s based on mutual trust;
- Your therapist will not give you advice. This is because they are trying to empower you to what you think you should do based on your own experiences and personal beliefs so that you can make better choices for yourself in future.
- You will notice a change in yourself as you begin to have therapy. These may only be small changes at first as therapy differs from one person to the next.
- Your therapist will, respectfully, challenge you. Some styles of therapy involve questioning irrational thinking patterns. This should be done respectfully without making you feel bad for ways of thinking that might not be serving you.
- Your therapist will offer a range of solutions. There’s no “one size fits all” but they are there to offer you a toolbox instead of a single tool.
With the help of a therapist, you can give yourself time and space to get to know who you are and what you need.
The stigma around having therapy is reducing and you’d be surprised how many friends and colleagues have already taken this step. It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help, it shows courage and strength that you are ready to make positive changes to your life.
As therapists, we have had to undergo our own therapy, so we know exactly how vulnerable and uncomfortable it can initially feel.
Here are some ways having therapy can help.
- Promote healthier behaviours;
- Provide more satisfying relationships in your life;
- Promote psychological well-being, through self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-compassion;
- Learn better mechanisms for coping with difficulty;
- Address overwhelming emotions or destructive behaviours that are influencing your ability to engage in daily life;
- Address issues such as unhelpful repeating patterns, depression, anxiety, addiction and grief.
You don't have to wait until you are having a crisis to attend therapy.
Remember that talking to a mental health professional, doesn't mean anything is wrong with you - it's what's happened to you,
You might simply decide that seeing a therapist is what helps you become the best version of yourself.
Therapists who are members of a professional body will have evidence that they have passed an approved training course; that they are insured and are properly supervised.
These professional bodies also require that members keep themselves up-to-date through continuous professional development.
If you are unsure, you can ask to see their professional membership card at your first session
Get in touch
Feel free to contact me if you have any questions about how counselling works, or to arrange an initial assessment appointment. This enables us to discuss the reasons you are thinking of coming to therapy, whether it could be helpful for you and whether I am the right therapist to help.
All enquires are usually answered within 24 hours, and all contact is strictly confidential and uses secure phone and email services.
I'm looking forward to hearing from you.
Gail
"What is meant for you, won't pass you by"
J A Martin
“Perhaps the butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness yet still become something beautiful.”
Beau Taplin